Oral Sex Techniques

How to Give Your First Blow Job: 5 Steps to Suck-cess

2011-05-15T10:00:00.007-04:00

Have you been thinking about giving your first blow job, but feeling a little nervous about actually doing it? Maybe you're worried that you'll do something wrong, or that you'll be so bad that the boy won;t enjoy it. It's completely normal to be nervous about trying something new for the first time. Fortunately, giving a blow job isn't rocket science. Following this step-by-step guide is all it will take to make your first blow job a huge "suck-cess."

1) Get into position. When you're ready to give your first blow job, you will need to get into a position where you can put the penis into your mouth and move your head. The traditional position for a blow job is for the girl to be on her knees with the boy standing or sitting in front of her. Another good position is for the girl to be sitting with the boy standing in front of her. However, any position is fine as long as you can stay in it awhile and move your head.

2) Put the penis into your mouth. When the boy takes his penis out (or has you take it out), use your hand to stroke the shaft a few times to get used to handling it, and then put just the head into your mouth. Alternate between swirling your tongue around the head and sucking on it while you continue stroking the shaft. When he's almost or completely hard, try putting more of his penis into your mouth. See how much you can take before it causes you start to gag a little. When you find that point, put your hand around the base of his penis high enough so that only that much penis will go in. Sometimes, when a boy gets excited, he starts thrusting his hips or pushing your head down. If he does, using your hand for a "stopper" will prevent him from pushing his penis in farther than you can handle.

You might be surprised at how good it feels to have a penis in your mouth. Having something in your mouth to suck on usually feels good anyway, and the silky soft skin, the hard shaft, and the spongier head of a penis provide a variety of sensations for your mouth and tongue. The most sensitive parts of the penis are the head and the underside of the shaft, so you'll want to give them extra attention. Speaking of sensitivity, be careful with your teeth. Use your lips to shield your teeth so that you don't bite or scrape his penis with them.

3) Use pressure and movement to get him excited. There's more to giving a blow job than just bobbing your head up and down. Pressure and movement are what cause a penis to ejaculate. However, without pressure, all the movement in the world won't make most boys climax, so try to keep your mouth as tight on his penis as you can. Also, be sure to use your tongue a lot. This warm, wet, flexible organ is what makes blow jobs feel so good, so use it as much as you can.

When the boy begins to ooze pre-ejaculatory fluid, aka pre-cum, from the tip of his penis, it's a sign that you're making progress. This is not semen, nor the ejaculation, but it indicates that the boy is turned on by what you're doing. From this point on, be sure to keep the penis in your mouth and keep up the pressure and movement. If your jaws and tongue get tired, you can use your hand to help keep the pressure on.

4) Bring him to orgasm. As a boy gets close to orgasm, he may start making noises, thrusting his hips, or grabbing your head. (Remember the "stopper" technique?) If he does, keep doing whatever you were doing that got him to that point because that’s what will take him over the edge. You should be pumping fast and furiously with your mouth (and your hand if you can’t move fast enough with your mouth).

Just before ejaculation, you may feel the penis harden, swell, and spasm, but that first spurt of semen may still catch you by surprise. You may also be surprised by the force and amount of the ejaculation, whcih can sometimes be a little overwhelming, even though it’s also exciting and satisfying since you know that you caused it. Just hang on and enjoy your reward for doing a good job.

5) Swallow. Be sure to keep stimulating his penis during his ejaculation. This makes his climax last longer and feel better. Continuing to suck through the orgasm – “sucking him dry” – leaves him both physically and emotionally satisfied. You can either swallow his semen as he ejaculates, or keep it in your mouth and swallow it afterward. Swallowing afterward is better because that gives you the chance to savor the taste and texture (which varies from boy to boy). Also, boys love to watch you swallow their semen!

After the boy finishes ejaculating and you've swallowed what was in your mouth, you can finish the blow job by”milking” his penis - squeezing at the base and sliding your hand up the shaft toward the head - to get the last bit of semen out, and then licking his penis clean. When you’re finished, smiling at him and saying something nice about his penis, how big an ejaculation he had, how good his semen tasted, or how much you enjoyed giving him a blow job will make him feel even better than he already does.

Once you've had "suck-cess" with your first blow job and found out for yourself how much fun they are, you will undoubtedly be giving many more. My posts 8 Fellatio Tricks That Drive Men Wild and 5 Advanced Fellatio Techniques can give you some ideas for new things to try with your future blow jobs, but eventually, you'll develop your own blow job style. Have fun!

Intense Fellatio: How to Give Your Man TOTAL Satisfaction

2011-04-20T10:00:00.003-04:00

If you are a woman who enjoys performing fellatio on your man, you’re probably also interested in ways to make it even better for him. Fellatio feels good all by itself, but if you make your man feel good about himself, too, you can give him an even more intense experience. Following the five steps below will leave your man completely satisfied in more ways than one.

1) Teasing
The first touches of your mouth can give your man the most incredible sensations. Give him some time to enjoy them and anticipate what is to "come." If you get the chance to pull out his penis yourself, try gently pulling down his underwear so that you reveal only the head. Then guide his penis to your mouth, and tease him with a couple of kisses before you pull his underwear all the way down and move in for a closer lick. Ever so slowly, glide the tip of your tongue up over the head, down the shaft and back up again. Then take the whole head into your mouth for one full suck, and let it pop out with a loud, sexy “slurp.” All this attention communicates the idea to him that you're really excited about seeing and handling his penis, which will please him to no end.

2) Varying stimulation
When a particular sensation is repeated for too long, the body becomes numb to it, so you want to vary your stimulation. That doesn't mean you have to constantly change what you're doing, especially if he's liking it, but just don't keep doing the same thing for too long. One way to vary stimulation that isn't really a technique is to use your tongue more. This soft, flexible organ is what makes fellatio unique, so use it! (If you want to vary your fellatio repertoire, you can check my posts 5 Advanced Fellatio Techniques and 8 Fellatio Tricks That Drive Men Wild for some ideas.)

3) Extending stimulation
Generally speaking, the longer sexual stimulation lasts, the more intense the orgasm. One thing you can do to extend stimulation is to bring your man to the edge of ejaculation several times before you let him finally ejaculate. When you feel that he' getting close to climax, take his penis out of your mouth immediately. If you can do this several times before letting him ejaculate, his orgasm will be super-intense. Try to look up at him while you do it and then smile before you put his penis back in your mouth. (This is a good time to switch techniques.)

4) Keep up the stimulation at climax
If your man is ready to ejaculate, keep doing whatever you were doing that got him to that point. That’s what will take him over the edge. Experimenting and variety are great, but as the moment of orgasm approaches, keep the pressure on and the rhythm going. You should be pumping fast and furiously with your mouth (and your hand if you can’t move fast enough with your mouth). If he wants you to do something else, he’ll tell you, but if it feels like he’s ready to climax, don’t stop what you’re doing until he finishes.

5) Swallow
Your man may say he doesn't care whether you swallow (so you won't quit giving him fellatio), but he does. To a man, swallowing his semen means acceptance. Spitting it out means rejection. Continuing to suck through the orgasm – “sucking him dry” – leaves him both physically and emotionally satisfied. (If you’re not a swallower yet, my post 7 Tips for Swallowing Semen gives women suggestions for learning this essential oral sex skill.)

After he finishes ejaculating, you can make it even better for him by"milking" his penis, squeezing at the base and sliding your hand up the shaft toward the head to get the last bit of semen out, and then licking his penis clean. When you're finished, take your hands and mouth away from his penis slowly to communicate that you're sorry that it's over. Smiling at him and saying something nice about his penis or how big a load he had (if you sincerely mean it) will make him feel even better than he already does.

Fellatio can be an empowering experience for a woman. You have your man's most precious organ in your mouth, and you have control over his pleasure. If you use your power the right way, you can give him, not only physical satisfaction, but also emotional satisfaction. That's what I mean by total satisfaction.

Any man can receive a blow job from any woman and ejaculate, but that does not mean the blow job was exceptionally great. To learn how to give blowjobs so amazing that your man will never desire another woman’s mouth in this life, click here!

Better Fellatio: 3 Steps to a Perfect Climax

2011-01-02T10:00:00.004-05:00

If you are a woman who enjoys performing fellatio on your man, you're probably also interested in ways to make it even better for him. If your man climaxes from oral sex, you're already doing something right, but did you know that his orgasm can be less enjoyable, if you don't finish him off the right way? To bring your man to a perfect climax whenever you give him oral sex, be sure to follow these three steps to make his orgasm as intense and pleasurable as possible:

1) Keep his penis in your mouth. The pressure, warmth, and wetness of your mouth is what got his penis ready to explode, so finish what you started. If you take it out before the grand finale, the finale may not be so grand. You should be able to tell when a man is about to ejaculate by the stiffening of his penis and lifting of his testicles. When this happens, taking as much of his penis into your mouth as you can will maximize his pleasure during orgasm. The explosiveness of his semen shooting into your mouth can sometimes be a little overwhelming, but it's also kind of exciting knowing that you caused it.

2) Don't stop what you're doing! If your man is ready to ejaculate, keep doing whatever you were doing that got him to that point. That's what will take him over the edge. Experimenting and variety are great, but as the moment of orgasm approaches, keep the pressure on and the rhythm going (which is why you shouldn't take his penis out of your mouth). You should be pumping fast and furiously with your mouth (and your hand if you can’t move fast enough with your mouth). If he wants you to do something else, he'll tell you, but if it feels like he's ready to climax, don't stop what you're doing until he finishes.

3) Swallow. His penis is paying you a compliment when it ejaculates. When finally presented to a woman after all her efforts, semen should be accepted... savored... and swallowed. It's your reward for a job well done. Also, continuing to suck through the orgasm – “sucking him dry” – leaves him both physically and emotionally satisfied. To make it even better for him, let him see that you are swallowing. If you don't mind looking a bit slutty, let some of his semen slide out between your lips and then suck it back in and swallow it. A brilliant smile at this moment will be appreciated. (If you're not a swallower yet, my post 7 Tips for Swallowing Semen gives women suggestions for learning this essential oral sex skill.)

While they say that getting there is half the fun, that means that the other half is the destination. An exciting conclusion makes the journey complete. If you bring your man to a perfect climax whenever you give him oral sex, you will keep him captivated and coming back for more... from YOU!

Any man can receive a blow job from any woman and ejaculate, but that does not mean the blow job was exceptionally great. To learn how to give blowjobs so amazing that your man will never desire another woman’s mouth in this life, click here!

6 Oral Sex Techniques to Make Your Woman Orgasm Like Crazy

2010-11-14T05:00:00.005-05:00

One of the best aspects of sex is the pleasure you can cause in your lover. Do you know that oral sex is the best sexual technique to make a female climax? More than 8o percent of women regularly achieve orgasm from oral sex when compared to only 30 percent of them from sexual intercourse. It's no wonder that many women prefer cunnilingus to sexual intercourse. If you want to make her orgasm like crazy, you need to become skilled at cunnilingus. To do this, you need to learn what the best oral sex techniques are. Here are six great oral sex moves to make a woman orgasm like crazy:

1) The Labial Hold

The Labial Hold is a easy move. While holding the two parts of her labia (vaginal lips) together with your lips, run your tongue between the inner and outer labia one side at a time.

2) Tongue Sex

Most of a woman’s nerve endings in her vagina are around the opening and within the first couple of inches inside. Target these nerves with your tongue by inserting it into her vaginal opening. Techniques are somewhat limited unless you have a long tongue, but you can still cause her intense pleasure by gently moving your tongue in and out, as well as in circles around the inside of her opening.

3) The Flick

Spread her outer labia with your fingers. With your tongue pointed, gently flick your tongue around her clitoris. Feel free to roam around other parts of her vulva, but keep coming back to her clitoris, as it is the most sensitive. This techniquedrives some women wild with passion, though others find it to too intense. When stimulating her clitoris, make sure to begin gently until you can determine how well she likes it. Observe her reactions to your actions and pay attention to whether those moans are pleasure or pain.

Be cautious with the next three moves Be sure not to apply them until your woman is fully aroused. These are powerful techniques that may be too intense for some women, even when they are close to orgasm.

4) The Clitoral Suck

Expose her clitoris by spreading her lips and lightly pull back her hood. With her clitoris exposed, give it a quick, little suck; pull it into your mouth briefly, and let it go. Treat it as if you are licking cake frosting off of your little finger. This feels incredible, but don’t overdo it! Do NOT use your teeth or hard suction when beginning. Again judge her reaction to your action. As you are performing the Clitoris Suck, insert your middle and index finger into her vagina with your goal being to find and stimulate her G Spot. Once mastered, combining these two moves will leave your women breathless.

5) The Clitoris Hold
Take her exposed clitoris into your mouth and gently suck on it, simultaneously flicking your tongue over and around it. This can be done very lightly or very aggressively, and combined with skillful finger action, will usually rapidly produce an powerful climax.

6) The Tongue Tube
This technique works best in an inverted or 69 position. Roll your tongue into a tube around her clitoris. Slide it back-and-forth. In effect, your tongue is doing something similar to a woman's vagina around a man's penis. This is likely to bring any woman over the edge to an explosive climax.

Use these six cunnilingus techniques to make your lover orgasm like crazy tonight. However, it's important to not forget that none of these moves in and of themselves will bring your lover to climax. A combination of these techniques is the key to giving her mind-blowing orgasms.

Performing cunnilingus can be one of the most wonderful things you can do for a woman. Oral sex done right can take your partner to new heights of pleasure and ecstasy! However, cunnilingus is a delicate skill, requiring technique, practice, and knowledge to get it right. To discover the forgotten oral sex secrets to make her climax more often, even if she's never had an orgasm before!, click here.

10 Steps to Great First-Time Cunnilingus

2010-05-30T05:00:00.003-04:00

Cunnilingus is the art of making love to a vulva and vagina with your mouth and tongue. If your new lover is a cunnilingus virgin, or she has just never received cunnilingus from you, then her first time may be a little scary. For some women, negative thoughts about their genitals interfere with their ability to enjoy cunnilingus. A woman may worry about everything from the appearance of her vulva to issues like genital odor and genital taste.

You can help put your lover at ease by being complimentary and positive about her genitals. There is little more exciting to a woman than to know that her man finds her delicious, meaning that you enjoy the taste, smell, and feeling of her vaginal juices. At the same time, there is little less exciting to a woman than to think that you don’t like the taste and smell of her most intimate region. Once she's relaxed an comfortable with you, following these ten steps should take her to new heights of pleasure and ecstasy!

1) With first-time cunnilingus you MUST be gentle with her. Stroke and kiss her back and legs, and then only when she is ready, move to the vulva and lick and kiss it gently.

2) Lick around the vaginal opening. Run your tongue around the entrance and caress her gently with your gliding motions. She may like circular motions or a light licking motion across the entire opening.

3) Probe her vagina with your tongue. Stick it in as far as you can. See if you can replicate the thrusting motions that you normally do with your penis. After every few thrusts, bring your tongue up to her clitoris for a couple of licks, and then resume your probing.

4) Run your tongue up and down the entire length of her inner labia on both sides. Use the tip of your tongue and then use the full width of your tongue. Make sure that you are grazing over her clitoris during this process, too. You can also include her perineum area between her vagina and anus.

5) Apply indirect pressure to her clitoris by circling all around it with your tongue. You may need to stop holding her labia lips open for this part. Some women, who can’t take direct pressure, respond better to indirect pressure. When you are holding apart her labia lips, you are making the clitoris more pronounced, and it could possibly be too much. Ask her.

6) Apply direct pressure by continuing to hold her labia lips open, and licking directly on her clitoris. Try making quick, flicking motions on her clitoris with your tongue, up and down or back and forth. You can also change it up and move your tongue in small circles around her clitoris in one direction and then the other..

7) Another thing to try is to suck her clitoris into your mouth and then gently suck on it as you would her nipple. As you are sucking on it, you can use your tongue on it at the same time.

8) When you are devoting your mouth and tongue to her clitoris, you can also incorporate your fingers during this time by fingering her vagina. You will help to stimulate the G-spot if you bend your fingers gently into a “come here” motion while inside her.

9) You can easily add rimming or analingus to oral sex if she is comfortable with it. There are many nerve endings at the entrance to the anus, and many women are surprised to find out how stimulating that area can be.

10) As a woman nears her climax, she may want more direct stimulation. In general, fast, rhythmic stimulation is most effective at causing climax. As the moment arrives for her to orgasm, lick her clitoris hard and fast. Many women enjoy strong stimulation while having an orgasm, so keep it going until she asks you to stop.

After her orgasm, don't leave her alone just yet. Talk to her, stroke her body, caress her breasts. Keep making love to her quietly until she's come all the way down.

Performing cunnilingus can be one of the most wonderful things you can do for a woman. Oral sex done right can take your partner to new heights of pleasure and ecstasy! However, cunnilingus is a delicate skill, requiring technique, practice, and knowledge to get it right. To discover the forgotten oral sex secrets to make her climax more often, even if she's never had an orgasm before!, click here.

Fellatio from a Female Perspective

2009-12-06T10:00:00.002-05:00

Fellatio is the act of applying your lips and mouth to a man's penis with the purpose of giving him pleasure. Fellatio, giving head, blow job - call it what you wish - is seldom discussed as an expression of female sexual empowerment, but rather as a form of male dominance. Taking a man’s penis in our mouths is traditionally seen as an act of submission. It is assumed we do it against our will.

However, fellatio can not only give a man immense pleasure, but can also be extremely empowering for a woman. I view the fellatio as a form of male surrender, something requiring a mutual degree of trust and self-restraint. It is one of the only times when a man is completely physically vulnerable, allowing a woman to have total control over his most sensitive organ using one of her most powerful organs - her mouth. The mouth can be an aggressive part of our anatomy, and we both know that it could induce severe pain and injury to the penis. This places a man completely at the mercy of his female partner (and her back molars).

Personally, I love to begin fellatio with a flaccid penis because I enjoy the feeling of his penis growing bigger and harder in my mouth. I'm extremely aroused knowing that my mouth, my kisses, my tongue, my sucking, are creating his response. The sensation of his penis literally tickling the back of my throat with subtle movements is a huge turn-on for me. The fact that he enjoys it so much makes it all that more pleasurable.

As he approaches climax, his penis grows even bigger and harder than I ever imagined that it could be. I can feel the hard contractions begin deep in his testicles, and then I can feel the surge of semen coming through the full length of his penis and shooting and splashing inside my mouth. The explosiveness of his semen shooting into my mouth can sometimes be a little overwhelming, but it's also kind of exciting knowing that I caused it.

Then as, his body quiets, I can feel the last little contractions signaling the final release. It is a very powerful moment. The vulnerability and trust between us is the most incredibly satisfying feeling.

Any man can receive a blow job from any woman and ejaculate, but that does not mean the blow job was exceptionally great. To learn how to give blowjobs so amazing that your man will never desire another woman’s mouth in this life, click here!

How to Give Fellatio to an Uncircumcised Penis

2009-11-15T10:00:00.002-05:00

While circumcision as a religious rite has been around for thousands of years, the practice took hold in the United States in the late 1800s as a means of curbing sexual diseases and masturbation. By the 1970s, 80 percent of American male infants were circumcised. Today, that figure has dropped to 60 percent, but this still far exceeds the international average of 15 percent. Many American women have literally never seen an uncircumcised penis and don't know what to do with one when they encounter it, especially when it comes to oral sex. Performing fellatio on an uncircumcised penis can be a pleasurable experience for both you and your partner as long as you are gentler with your moves.

The first and most important thing to know is that the foreskin is actually the most sexually pleasurable part of a man's body, similar to how the clitoris is the most pleasurable part of a woman's body. Near the tip of the foreskin is an area called the ridged band. This area that circles the end of the penis contains almost 20,000 nerve endings designed to be sexually pleasurable. That's over half of the erogenous nerve endings in the penis.

While those additional nerves can create extra feeling, they also create extra sensitivities. When a clitoris is stimulated too early in a cunnilingus session, a woman will sometimes feel pain. In order to make your partner enjoy fellatio, you should go slowly at the beginning and warm him up with your suction. Once he is highly aroused, you can go slightly harder on your maneuvers.

Let me highlight three important things to take note of when your man’s penis is uncircumcised:

1) Because your man's penis is uncircumcised, the foreskin is extremely sensitive to any of your maneuvers. You need to be extra careful not to scrape your teeth on his penis or suck it too hard because this may cause him a lot of pain and turn him off completely.

2) When giving fellatio to an uncircumcised penis, you need to be gentler so that your man will not experience discomfort or pain. Start off with slow strokes and maintain it unless he requests you to go harder. Even if he asks you to go harder on the strokes, you should always gradually increase your pressure.

3) Once an uncircumcised penis is fully erect, the foreskin rolls back on its own. However, sometimes it can stay put, so you may need to move it away from the tip. Be sure to ask for permission first, and then carefully slip it back a little. Don’t push is past the head and don’t be forceful.

One fellatio technique that you can only do with an uncircumcised penis is circling the inside of the foreskin with your tongue. For an added sensation, flick the head of his penis with your tongue similar to the way he would flick your clitoris with his tongue. If you want to drive him crazy, try sucking and licking his penis and moving the foreskin up and down on the shaft at the same time. You can also lightly massage the head with your thumb and index finger, but don’t press too hard. Some men can’t handle too much attention being paid to their intact tip, so don’t take it personally if he wants you to back off.

Fellatio on an uncircumcised penis can be like a walk in heaven for both you and him. His pleasure will be so intense that he'll be putty in your hands, and you'll always know when he's truly aroused. Giving your man pleasure orally can be a very good experience for your relationship. When your man is pleased, he'll want to do the same for you.

Any man can receive a blow job from any woman and ejaculate, but that does not mean the blow job was exceptionally great. To learn how to give blowjobs so amazing that your man will never desire another woman’s mouth in this life, click here!

How to Deep Throat a Really Long Penis

2009-05-03T09:00:00.002-04:00

So, you've learned to deep throat a penis, and maybe even mastered some advanced techniques. You consider yourself quite the deep throat queen. Then you meet a new man, one thing leads to another, and you wind up in bed together. Once the boxers come off, you can't help but notice something about your new lover: he has a long penis - a really long penis. It's at least an inch or two longer than the longest penis you've ever deep throated before, and at that time you thought you'd swallowed as much as you possibly could.

Are you going to have to abdicate your throne, and settle for being a common fellatrix? Not necessarily. If your man is exceedingly lengthy, and you just won’t be happy until you can swallow all of him to the root, here’s the technique you’ll need to penetrate further into the esophagus. It's not easy for some women, but, remember that most sword swallowers can swallow swords from about 16" to 22" (about 40 to 60 cm). You can probably learn to swallow half that length.

When faced with this huge penis, your brain will become alarmed that this massive intruder might go into your windpipe, so it will create a sphincter in there that closes up. How do you get around it? Have you ever sucked air into your stomach to make a burp? You do it by opening your throat and sucking in. That’s the technique you use to get down into your esophagus. When you feel his penis "hit bottom" around the 7" to 9" mark (18 to 23 cm), do four things right away: (1) open your throat and suck in; (2) swallow hard; (3) move your tongue vigorously inward; and (4) push gently.

The first few times you may have to push a little harder than you might assume you would because you are fighting against your own brain here. Also, the first few times there will probably be a momentary flash of a brand new sensation deep in your throat. This is caused by the stimulation of thousands of nerves that had hitherto been unused. Your brain is rapidly trying to sort out whether it’s pain, or heat, or what. Actually, it’s just pressure, which your brain will figure out in a second or two.

As you gain experience, your brain will eventually recognize the signals, and you will feel only the pleasure of the penis's surface sliding along the smooth surface of the inside of your esophagus. Deep throating a really long penis is definitely more difficult than deep throating an average-sized one, but certainly not impossible if you want to attempt it.

Any man can receive a blow job from any woman and ejaculate, but that does not mean the blow job was exceptionally great. To learn how to give blowjobs so amazing that your man will never desire another woman’s mouth in this life, click here!

5 Reasons to Swallow Your Man's Semen

2009-05-01T08:00:00.002-04:00

To spit or to swallow? That is the question. Women are split on the issue. Some act as if semen is poison while others greedily swallow and suck their man dry. When asked, most men say they prefer that the woman swallow. Since the purpose of fellatio is to give pleasure to your man, that would seem to settle the question. However, if that's not enough to convince you, there are even more reasons to swallow your man's semen.

1) It's polite. After all it's rude to spit. Also, wouldn't you be offended if your man ran to the bathroom to gargle with mouthwash after going down on you? What sort of message does it convey to immediately run to the nearest sink to spit?

2) It's environmentally friendly. Spitting out semen wastes tissues and paper towels, destroys trees, and adds to our landfill problems. Swallowing semen is a form of environmentally-friendly recycling.

3) It's healthful. Swallowing semen may help prevent depression and lower blood pressure. Also, those concerned with nutrition and daily vitamins will be pleased to find that the average ejaculate contains calcium, magnesium, potassium, vitamin B-12, and zinc. Plus, for all you dieters out there, the caloric content of semen is a measly 15 calories.

4) Your man wants you to. If a man has to worry about ejaculating, feeling that it is an imposition on you or the cause of unpleasantness, he cannot fully relax and cannot fully enjoy his climax. Also, continuing to suck through the orgasm - “sucking him dry" - leaves him both physically and emotionally satisfied. In addition, swallowing semen has deep, symbolic significance to men. Spitting out his semen is a symbolic rejection to many men. By swallowing, you indicate your complete acceptance of him.

5) God wants you to. There is nothing in the Bible that forbids engaging in acts of oral sex. In fact, according to one Bible expert, the Bible specifically encourages fellatio to completion (orgasm), though only if the female partner consumes or swallows the ejaculate. This prevents spilling seed, which is an affront to God, and also provides spiritual benefit to the woman. Performing fellatio to completion and then spitting out the resulting ejaculate should be almost unthinkable to anyone who believes in the Bible.

A woman who swallows puts her partner at ease and allows him to relax and enjoy one of the most intimate and pleasurable sex acts she can perform on him. Women who don't swallow usually blame their gag reflex or the taste of semen for their refusal. If you would like to make fellatio an even better experience for your man by swallowing his semen, check out these seven tips for overcoming the gag reflex and the taste.

Any man can receive a blow job from any woman and ejaculate, but that does not mean the blow job was exceptionally great. To learn how to give blowjobs so amazing that your man will never desire another woman’s mouth in this life, click here!

Irrumatio: Even Better Than Fellatio?

2009-04-29T09:00:00.002-04:00

Irrumatio is actively thrusting the penis into the mouth of a partner. A distinction was once made between irrumatio and fellatio based on who is actively moving. Irrumatio meant to thrust the penis into the partner's mouth; fellatio meant to move the head and mouth up-and-down around the penis, but this distinction has almost completely vanished in modern English.

Irrumatio gives a different experience to a man than when he is being fellated by a woman because he's the one moving, he's more tense and active, and he's controlling his experience much more so than in the regular fellatio. What does a woman get out of irrumatio? As with any sex act, pleasing the partner is sometimes more important than deriving any innate pleasure from the act itself. Most woman are not going to "get off" on being still and having their mouths used in the same way as their vaginas. The benefit will largely be the knowledge that she is pleasing her partner.

In some cases, however, the woman may enjoy it just as much as the man does. Many women enjoy rough sex to one degree or another, and some women like to be "degraded" or dominated. There's nothing wrong with that at all, so long as it is something you do consensually (and recognize that it has to be confined to the bedroom).

If you and your partner want to try this, lie down on your back with a pillow under your head. He should straddle you with his hands and knees so that his crotch is over your face, and his head is above yours. He should move around until he can easily fit his penis into your mouth. You should make your mouth wet and form a snug ring with her lips around his shaft. Basically, any position that works well for regular oral sex will work for irrumatio as long as it allows the man to move his hips.

In fellatio, the woman is the one who controls how fast and deep the penis goes into her mouth. In irrumatio, however, the man is the one who's in control for the most part. If you can learn to overcome your gag reflex, then irrumatio will become a bit easier for you. Deep throat is a form of oral sex in which the entire length of the erect penis is taken into the mouth. If you can’t do that and want to learn how, read my tutorial Deep Throat: What It Is and How to Do It.

You can also use the Stopper Technique to maintain some control over the depth of his thrusts. Wrap one hand around his lower shaft, to use as a stopper, allowing only as much of his penis into your mouth as you're comfortable with. If your hand is at the base, this also adds a pleasurable pressure against his body. You can use your hand to squeeze and stroke the lower part of his penis as the top part slides in and out, moving the hand down to the base as the penis slides in.

When he begins thrusting, he should slide his penis in and out with his hips, without moving his knees or using his hands. He can add things like rocking his pelvis from side to side or circularly (called "grinding"), or you can rock your head from side to side, or move it up and back to meet his strokes, or use your tongue if you like.

It is important that he start out slowly, and work his way up in terms of speed and depth. You should find some way to let your partner know when he's going too deep, especially if your head is resting against something that doesn't allow you to pull back. Agree to a signal before you get started. Don't plan on using verbal communication because you'll have a penis in your mouth and may not be able to speak in time. Using your hands to tap him on his leg (or wherever) when he starts getting too deep is a good idea. If you are the man, it is very important that you stop the instant your partner indicates that something is wrong, The more you do this, the more "in tune" you'll be with your partner, and you'll gradually develop the ability to sense when it is becoming too much for her.

Irrumatio is another sex act that can be added to your sexual repertoire and enjoyed as you feel the desire to do it. Some women can get into this second kind of fellatio while others don't like it. A frequent complaint is that the woman feels abused, that she has no control and the man thrusts too deeply or violently, causing gagging, fear, or other troubles. This needn't happen if the couple can talk freely and respect their own and each other's wants and needs.

Any man can receive a blow job from any woman and ejaculate, but that does not mean the blow job was exceptionally great. To learn how to give blowjobs so amazing that your man will never desire another woman’s mouth in this life, click here!

The Kivin Method: Guaranteed Orgasm for Women

2009-04-27T09:00:00.001-04:00

http://sexsecretsblog.com/wp-admin/post.php?action=edit&post=474The Kivin Method, also known as "Tahitian cunnilingus," is an amazing oral sex technique that will delight any woman. It's a method that can give a woman a rapid, intense orgasm. Best of all, it's easy to learn and do. No tongue gymnastics are required.

Have her get comfortable in a reclined position, her legs open. Make sure that you kiss, suck, and lick her thighs, her navel and all of the areas around her vagina. Do not make premature contact with her vagina. As she slowly becomes more aroused, continue teasing her with your tongue and lips and slowly massage her vagina.

When she is ready, position your head so that it is perpendicular to her body. Place two fingers on either side of the hood of her clitoris and slowly run your tongue back and forth, and over and under the hood. In other words, your head should be at a 90 degree angle to her, and you will be licking up and down, but because you are perpendicular, your tongue will travel from side to side.

Place the flat of your thumb or finger on her perineum - the area of skin between the anus and the vagina - and gently apply pressure without moving. The pressure on the perineum stimulates the anal sphincter muscles, which are the strongest muscles involved in female orgasm and really heighten the pleasure. Many women experience a deeper orgasm from the connection they feel between their clitoris and their perineum.

Continue stimulating her clitoral hood, slowly increasing your speed. As you feel her nearing orgasm, transfer your tongue to the head of her clitoris. Continue to stimulate and hold her while she climaxes. Let her enjoy herself and continue to stimulate her until she lets you know you can stop.

Performing cunnilingus can be one of the most wonderful things you can do for a woman. Oral sex done right can take your partner to new heights of pleasure and ecstasy! However, cunnilingus is a delicate skill, requiring technique, practice, and knowledge to get it right. To discover the forgotten oral sex secrets to make her climax more often, even if she's never had an orgasm before!, click here.

8 Fellatio Tricks That Drive Men Wild

2009-04-25T09:00:00.002-04:00

Every man loves receiving fellatio from his woman, and your man is no exception. It is a great way to give him pleasure, regardless of whether it is for foreplay, after play, or the main event. Social messages about fellatio suggest that men love it so much that they don’t care about technique. In reality, consummate skill is required to suck a man's penis and provide him with the highest degree of pleasure possible. While practice makes perfect, here are eight tricks you can use to improve your fellatio technique.

1) Around the World. This is kissing and licking the body all over. If you're moving down his stomach, you can kiss your way into his crotch, or use a somewhat pointed tongue in flicking motions within the groove of the crotch, between the thigh and testicles. You can tongue the scrotum itself, licking and cuddling his testicles with a soft, caressing tongue, and even draw one or both into the mouth with very light sucking motions or humming. From here, you can massage his perineum, the space between the testicles and anus, and even go on to tongue the anus also. (If he likes that, see my post Analingus: The Dark Kiss for more techniques.)

2) Blowing Hot and Cold. Go down on the penis shaft as far as you can with your lips firmly wrapped around it. (If you can’t take the entire length of his erect penis into your mouth and want to learn how, read my tutorial Deep Throat: What It Is and How to Do It.) Open your mouth as wide as you can and suck in as much air as your lungs will hold. While sucking in air, let your open mouth travel up to the penis’s head. Your upstroke motion should end at the head of his penis just as your lungs fill with air. Then, with your mouth still open, let out the air in your lungs slowly through your mouth as your opened mouth travels back down the shaft. This technique cools the penis on the upstroke and warms the penis with your hot breath on the down stroke.

3) The Butterfly Flutter. Firmly wrap your lips around the penis where you can reach the tip comfortably. Gently flick the tip of the head with your tongue a few times, and then slowly suck the penis further into your mouth. Do not take in too much. Only go as far as where your tongue can still reach the tip of the penis comfortably. Lick the distance a few times to be sure that it is a comfortable distance and then "flutter" your tongue up and down the length of the penis in your mouth.

4) The Circle. Place his erect penis inside your mouth but do not tighten your lips around the shaft. With your head begin a circle motion. The penis will slide to different places in your mouth as you continue the circle motion. Watch your teeth on this one. The circle should be performed both clockwise and counterclockwise in a slow, purposeful manner.

5) The Lollipop Lick. With your man sitting in an elevated position and you on your knees in front, lift his erect penis to reveal his testicles. With your tongue, find the underside of his testicles. Then, while resting them on your wet tongue, lick in an upward motion to the very tip of his penis. You can also use your hands in this technique if necessary. It is better to do this technique several times in succession-like licking a lollipop or ice cream cone.

6) The Quickie. There are times when you will want to get your man off in a hurry because you are short on time, such as a lunch break visit to the office. It is fairly easy to give him an orgasm by simply sucking on the most sensitive parts of his penis. Place your lips around your partner's head and twirl your lips and your tongue around the corona and frenulum. Keep your mouth wet and gently continue your movements until he orgasms. This will not take long, and no other fellatio techniques or hand movements are required though you can incorporate them if you would like to. (If you would like to make fellatio an even better experience for your man by swallowing his semen, try these seven tips for overcoming the gag reflex and the taste.) One other use of this technique is to get him hard again after he ejaculates.

7) The Shirley Temple. If you make your tongue soft, thick and rounded, you can cuddle the penis with broad, languorous lapping strokes, caressing and enveloping it. This is called the Shirley Temple, because it's like licking a big lollipop.

8) The Traveling Figure Eight. With your lips firmly wrapped around the penis shaft, try very slowly to reach the base of the shaft or as close to it as you are comfortable. Your nose should be buried in or at least touching the pubic hairs at the base of the penis. With your nose, trace a figure eight as if the figure eight were lying on its side. Your figure eight motion should be three to four inches long. Slowly travel up the shaft of the penis to the head, doing the figure eight motion. Keep doing this motion and let your lips firmly travel up and down the shaft.

There is only one true way to do fellatio, and that's with enthusiasm. You have to love what you're doing to him, either because you love him or you love fellatio. Loving both is best!

Any man can receive a blow job from any woman and ejaculate, but that does not mean the blow job was exceptionally great. To learn how to give blowjobs so amazing that your man will never desire another woman’s mouth in this life, click here!

5 Advanced Fellatio Techniques

2009-04-23T09:00:00.002-04:00

Fellatio is oral sex performed on a man. It is a great way to give pleasure, regardless of whether it is for foreplay, after play, or the main event. Giving good fellatio is much more complex than simply bobbing one's head up and down. Like all other sexual skills, it must be learned. Once you get the basics, and are comfortable and experienced with them, try these fice advanced fellatio techniques to increase his pleasure.

1) Encircle your tongue around and around the helmet of his penis, meaning that you lick with the front and back of your tongue.

2) As you're moving up his shaft with your mouth, turn your head a bit from side to side, letting your tongue follow a corkscrew pattern. When you get to that part of the shaft just beneath the head be sure to lick it for a few seconds before moving all the way up to the top. Then repeat this moving down his shaft. What will drive him wild about this is that you aren't just going up and down, you're also going sideways.

3) Stimulating another part of your man's body while performing fellatio is a sure way to tip him over the edge quickly. Try sliding your hands underneath your man's butt and massaging his cheeks while taking him in your mouth, pumping your fingers into his cheeks in time with thrusting up and down along the shaft of his penis with your mouth.

4) To heighten his orgasm, place your thumb at the very base of the penis blocking the tube through which the semen spurts so the the semen cannot escape.

5) After your man has ejaculated, run your hands over his testicles and ever so gently squeeze them between your thumb and fingers. It will feel like another mini orgasm.

If you would like to make fellatio an even better experience for your man by swallowing his semen, read 7 Tips for Swallowing Semen. If you’re ready to learn the ultimate oral sex technique, read my tutorial Deep Throat: What It Is and How to Do It. Once you’ve mastered deep throat, here are five advanced techniques you can learn to make deep throat even more enjoyable for your man.

Any man can receive a blow job from any woman and ejaculate, but that does not mean the blow job was exceptionally great. To learn how to give blowjobs so amazing that your man will never desire another woman’s mouth in this life, click here!

Deep Throat: The Ultimate Oral Sex Technique

2009-04-21T08:00:00.002-04:00

Deep throat is the ultimate oral sex technique because it doesn't come naturally to anyone. Since the average erect penis is longer than the average mouth is deep, deep throat requires suppressing the gag reflex in order to partially swallow the end of the penis. In order to perform this type of oral sex, the penis recipient controls all the muscles at the back of the throat and flattens the tongue, while gradually inserting the erect penis completely. Deep throat is a skill that must be learned and practiced.

Why would you want to learn to deep throat? Five reasons immediately come to mind:

1) It is very visually arousing for your man. Many of you have seen videos or pictures of a woman deep throating an erect penis. It is a very erotic image, especially watching her neck and throat expand and bulge as the penis slides in and out, and one that all men are turned on by.

2) When done right, with enthusiasm and skill, most men find it very, very pleasurable. The pleasure of deep throating is created by the pleasurable ring of tightness around the circumference of the penis just below the head, with the most intense sensation focused on the exquisitely sensitive underside of the penis where the head joins the shaft. Imagine your delight when you hear your man moan with pleasure as you do things to his penis that most men only dream of.

3) If you don't like the taste of your man's semen but he wants to ejaculate in your mouth, the head of his penis is in so deeply when you perform deep throat that it extends past the taste buds that are on the back of the tongue. While this doesn't completely eliminate the taste, it is not as strong when done this way.

4) It is empowering for a woman to do. Your man must completely trust you. You have all the control.

5) You may find giving deep throat very arousing and pleasurable yourself. For women who already enjoy giving oral sex to their man, adding reasons 2, 4, and (for some women) 3 to the experience, can take their enjoyment to a whole new level.

There are lots of ways to give your lover vast amounts of oral pleasure without him entering your throat, but it's worth trying. If you're ready to learn the ultimate oral sex technique, read my tutorial Deep Throat: What It Is and How to Do It. Once you've mastered deep throat, here are five advanced techniques you can learn to make deep throat even more enjoyable for your man. If your man is exceedingly lengthy, and you just won’t be happy until you can swallow all of him to the root, here’s the technique you’ll need to penetrate further into the esophagus.

Any man can receive a blow job from any woman and ejaculate, but that does not mean the blow job was exceptionally great. To learn how to give blowjobs so amazing that your man will never desire another woman’s mouth in this life, click here!

7 Tips for Swallowing Semen

2009-04-19T17:19:00.002-04:00

Even though swallowing semen may help prevent depression and lower blood pressure, many women (including some who enthusiastically perform fellatio on their men) still don't like to swallow. Women who don't swallow usually blame their gag reflex or the taste of semen for their refusal. However, swallowing has deep, symbolic significance to men. By swallowing, a woman indicates her complete acceptance of him. Spitting out his semen is a symbolic rejection to many men.

If you would like to make fellatio an even better experience for your man by swallowing his semen, here are seven tips for overcoming the gag reflex and the taste:

1) Swallow in the morning
If gagging is an obstacle to swallowing for you, you should know that the gag reflex is least active the first thing in the morning. Try giving your man fellatio when you first wake up. This is the best time to practice swallowing with a minimum of gagging. Once you have had a few successful attempts, you'll become more accustomed to swallowing semen and the gagging will stop.

2) Avoid the taste buds
The main complaints about the taste of semen are that it is bitter and salty. The taste buds on different areas of the tongue are sensitive to specific tastes: sweet on the tip of the tongue, salty and sour on the sides, and bitter at the back. When swallowing semen, you can minimize the unpleasant tastes by trying to keep it away from the corresponding parts of your tongue. Since the "bitter" taste buds at the back of the throat are the most problematic, the solution is either to overshoot them by deep throating or by pooling the semen in the front of the mouth and then swallowing quickly in one gulp. Make sure the semen spends as little time as possible lingering near the back of your tongue.

3) Deep throat
As mentioned in the above tip, when you perform deep throat, the head of the penis is in so deeply that it extends past the "bitter" taste buds that are on the back of the tongue. As your man reaches the moment of ejaculation, take his penis as far into your throat as you can, swallow as his semen hits the back of your throat, and continue swallowing until he's finished. You'll never taste it if you can avoid getting it on your tongue.

4) Use flavored lubes
There are a number of flavored lubes available that may help you disguise the taste of semen. Pick the flavor that you like the best and spread a generous amount all over his penis before putting it in your mouth. This has the added bonus of making fellatio, especially deep throating, easier because you don't have to produce all the lubricant yourself.

5) Pop a mint
Try sucking on an Altoid, Tic Tac, or mentholated cough drop immediately before performing fellatio. The mint will kill the taste of the semen when he ejaculates. Also, many men enjoy getting a tingle from mint or menthol products on their penises.

With the first five tips, you can hide the fact that you don't like the taste of his semen. With these last two, however, you're obviously trying to disguise the taste. With a little finesse on your part, though, he won't mind.

5) Wash it down
One way to keep from having to taste semen when you swallow is to wash it down with something. If you have a glass of water by your bedside, after he ejaculates, simply reach for the glass of water and wash the semen down the same way you would a pill or capsule. (Remember those health benefits.) Try not to move your head too much, other than tilting it back, in order to minimize the sloshing effect. Done correctly, you'll never taste it.

7) Just a spoonful of sugar
Instead of taking your "medicine" like a good girl with only water to wash it down, try following Mary Poppins' advice to disguise the taste with a "spoonful of sugar." You can easily use a mouthful of chocolate syrup or honey to chase down the semen and get the taste out of your mouth. Using food as part of fellatio also causes you to subconsciously associate sucking a penis with swallowing something that tastes good. Eventually, that association may make swallowing semen "neat" taste good to you.

If a man has to worry about ejaculating, feeling that it is an imposition on the woman or the cause of unpleasantness, it creates tension. He cannot fully relax or fully enjoy his climax. A woman who swallows puts her partner at ease and allows him to relax and enjoy one of the most intimate and pleasurable sex acts she can perform on him.

Any man can receive a blow job from any woman and ejaculate, but that does not mean the blow job was exceptionally great. To learn how to give blowjobs so amazing that your man will never desire another woman’s mouth in this life, click here!

4 Advanced Cunnilingus Techniques

2009-04-17T10:00:00.001-04:00

Cunnilingus is the act of using the mouth to stimulate the female genitals. This can include sucking or licking the outer and inner areas of the vagina and direct stimulation of the clitoris.. My tutorial 5 Steps to Perfect Cunnilingus explains how to bring a woman to orgasm through oral sex, but there is more you can do to make cunnilingus enjoyable for her. When you reach the point in your oral lovemaking where she is highly aroused and ready for finger insertion, here are 4 advanced techniques you can try.

1) G-spot stimulation. G-spot stimulation works better than anything else you can do to cause a strong, prolonged orgasm. This "spot," between a penny and quarter in size, is a small mound of tissue inside the vagina, which has a high concentration of sexual nerves and produces hormones similar to those made by the male's prostate gland. To locate the G-spot, slide a finger inside her vagina, palm up. Curve your middle finger toward yourself gently as if you were gesturing to someone to "come here."

She must be excited for G-spot stimulation to have any real effect at all. It's not the ideal area for getting your lover aroused, but when she is excited, this area, more often than not, is the best way to bring her to orgasm. Work your way back to it gradually, teasing her with your fingers slowly and gently. It's easier to hit the right area with two fingers, but this may not be comfortable for her, depending on how "tight" she is at that moment.

When you have your fingers on the right area, try gently pressing. The movement should be rhythmic and hard, not quick. It's typically best if you're licking her clitoris, or near it, at the same time. The licking should seem to be the primary activity. When you find the right area, she should respond by getting more excited. The best basic technique, upon finding the G-spot, is to continue to slowly, rhythmically press on it, while licking her clitoris. This should cause her to build up to an orgasm.

2) Anal stimulation from inside the vagina. The vagina actually shares a wall, on one side, with the rectum. Not only does this mean that sexual stimulation is possible through anal intercourse, it also means that a similar sensation can be achieved without ever touching her anus by stimulating the side of her vagina where it shares nerves with her rectum.

This area is more or less one hundred eighty degrees around opposite from the G-spot. In other words, if you were to reach in and arch your finger to touch her G-spot, and then rotate your hand to face the exact other direction and make a similar (but flatter) motion, you've got the right area, the area where it would touch her rectum, inside. Press more with the length of your finger rather than the tip. It rarely works well to stimulate this early on. Usually, you need to not only build up to it, but even get her very excited and sensitive first. This technique works best, in most cases, as a change of pace, not the main attraction.

3) Back and forth. Once you have your partner used to G-spot stimulation, you can try, occasionally and for variety, switching back and forth between pressing her G-spot and pressing the length of your finger on the opposite side, as in technique number two. Sometimes you can even get to the point of doing one press on one side, and then on the other, back and forth, which can feel amazing. Most likely, though, it will work better if you switch every several seconds, not every time you press.

3) Stimulating the cervix. The cervix is yet another area where you definitely want to build up to stimulating as it can actually be painful to even touch if she's not excited enough. Don't ever touch the cervix if she's pregnant or using a contraceptive that fits over the cervix, such as an IUD or diaphragm. The cervix is also about 180 degrees around from the G-spot, but it's in much deeper. The cervix is not an abstract "area." It actually juts up like a little flesh mesa. It has an opening at its very "peak," but this is normally closed pretty tightly.

The best way to stimulate the cervix is to gently caress around the sides and base. Eventually, build up to circling it with one or two fingers, around and around, gently staying in contact with it so that she can feel the motion through the cervix itself. You may even try pressing directly on the tip with your finger or fingers in the way a penis might if it happened enter her at the right angle to hit her cervix. Stimulating the cervix is also something that works better as a change of pace, not the "main course" of the cunnilingus session unless she really gets into it.

When you first try these techniques, you may get a "What on earth are you doing?" reaction from your woman, especially to techniques two and four. However, as long as she adds, "No, I didn't say to stop," when you hesitate, keep doing what you're doing. New sensations in areas that neither you nor she have previously explored may be somewhat disconcerting to her, but, unless she tell you to stop, she likes them.

Performing cunnilingus can be one of the most wonderful things you can do for a woman. Oral sex done right can take your partner to new heights of pleasure and ecstasy! However, cunnilingus is a delicate skill, requiring technique, practice, and knowledge to get it right. To discover the forgotten oral sex secrets to make her climax more often, even if she's never had an orgasm before!, click here.

5 Steps to Perfect Cunnilingus

2009-04-15T08:00:00.001-04:00

Cunnilingus is the act of using the mouth to stimulate the female genitals. This can include sucking or licking the outer and inner areas of the vagina and direct stimulation of the clitoris. A recent study showed that twice as many women orgasm from oral sex as from intercourse. Cunnilingus performed well will endear you to her like nothing else can. Follow these five steps for performing perfect cunnilingus on your woman.

1) Hands first. Spend some time kissing her lips, shoulders, breasts, and stomach. Stroke her lightly with your fingertips. Run your finger up and down between her labia, but don’t insert a finger. Instead, slowly tantalize her opening just a bit. Gently squeeze and pull on her lips. Use your hands to grab and caress her thighs, her tummy, and her pelvic arch. Tease her with your hands. Stimulate her as much as possible without directly touching her clitoris.

Many women enjoy a massage of the mons. The mons pubis (Latin, pubic mound) is the mound of skin on top the pubic bone above the vaginal opening. Take one or both of your hands and carefully move the mons and surrounding area much the same way you would massage someone's shoulders. Be careful not to press too hard or make too wide a circular movement.

2) Add your tongue. Move down between her legs and gently kiss, blow, stroke and nibble her belly, inner thighs and hips. Gently spread her legs and kiss her pubic mound. Nuzzle around for a few minutes, spending time with the different parts of her vulva. Flatten your tongue and use wide slow strokes to explore her inner and outer lips, her vagina, and her clitoris. Imagine licking an ice cream cone. Start at the perineum and lick up and around her clitoris and back down the other side. Lick up and down her labia, in the middle, around her opening. Pay attention to her lips. Slowly suck them in. Use your fingers at the same time to caress her, to open her up. Pay attention to her breathing. When she breathes faster, she's enjoying herself more. Take note of what she likes and repeat it.

3) Go for the clitoris. Once you know she’s aroused (i.e. if she’s told you or motioned so), you can then move to the clitoris. Give her clitoris a little lick, move back to other areas again, and then go back up and gently suck her clitoris into your mouth. Continue licking and sucking in various patterns. In general, women tend to like firm pressure and repetitive motion. Quick tongue flicks against the clitoris can be irritating. Hold her legs open like you are diving in and have to get every inch of her. Being exposed like this makes most women feel very, very sexy and aroused.

4) Use your fingers. When you sense that your partner is getting closer to orgasm, it's time to return to finger play. Here are four techniques to try.

Fingers holding the vagina open. Holding the vaginal lips open makes the clitoris more taut and, thereby, more sensitive. Many women hold their own vaginal lips open when masturbating for this very reason. You can do this with one hand or two. If you use one hand, use the other to feel her tummy, breasts, or thighs. Hold her vagina open and just pay attention to the clitoris, remembering to alternate licking and sucking as well as taking a short break from the direct clitoral pressure to lick up and down her inner crease.
Fingers on the clitoris. Many women love a finger or a thumb on the clitoris during oral sex. This is not to say you should stop licking. Just vary your technique to use your finger or thumb as the main stimulator, and then move your tongue around the other areas. This is a good technique if you are getting tired, and she is close to orgasm.
Fingers in. Women often enjoy the feeling of penetration during oral sex. When fingering your partner, remember that not all women like four fingers in--at least not at first--so begin with two. Make sure she is lubricated enough (and by now she should be) and slowly insert two fingers into her vagina. This should cause her to gasp with pleasure. Run your fingers around her inner vaginal walls. If she is receptive, use another finger. Gently move your fingers in and out of her vagina as you lick and caress her clitoris. Ask her what speed works for her. Faster, slower, more fingers, or less: pleasing her is your objective here.
Go for the G-spot. While you are fingering your partner, you might want to attempt to stimulate her G-spot. This little spot is on the upper (tummy) side of her vaginal wall, about 2-3 inches in. When you hit this spot, it will feel spongy and rougher than the rest of her vaginal wall. If you have your fingers in palm side up and rub on this spot HARD, she will likely gasp with intense pleasure. Even if she doesn’t have a G-spot orgasm right then, it's nice to try and will feel good to her regardless.

5) Bring her to orgasm. When you hear rapid, heavy breathing and feel her body start to tense up, whatever you do, don't stop doing what you're doing. She's probably about to have an orgasm. Begin to lick harder, suck in her clitoris, and use your fingers in her vagina to give her the insertion she wants. Press her legs more open and keep stimulating her. When she begins to orgasm, you will feel a contracting of her PC muscles and most likely an increase in lubrication. Continue to stimulate and hold her while she climaxes. Be warned: women can have much longer orgasms than men and can experience waves of orgasms that last several minutes. Let her enjoy herself and continue to stimulate her until she lets you know you can stop.

Remember that every woman's body is different. What one woman loves, another woman hates. Talk to your partner about what she likes and dislikes. The more comfortable you are discussing cunnilingus, the more you'll enjoy performing it, but the best way to excel at cunnilingus is lots of practice. Fortunately, your partner should be more than happy to help out.

Performing cunnilingus can be one of the most wonderful things you can do for a woman. Oral sex done right can take your partner to new heights of pleasure and ecstasy! However, cunnilingus is a delicate skill, requiring technique, practice, and knowledge to get it right. To discover the forgotten oral sex secrets to make her climax more often, even if she's never had an orgasm before!, click here.

5 Advanced Deep Throat Techniques

2009-04-13T09:00:00.002-04:00

Deep throat is a form of oral sex in which the entire length of the erect penis is taken into the mouth. If you can't do that and want to learn how, read my tutorial Deep Throat: What It Is and How to Do It. Once you've mastered deep throat, here are five advanced techniques you can learn to make deep throat even more enjoyable for your man.

1) Deep Throat Massage. After you've learned to take in the entire length, you'll also be able to perform a throat massage on his penis while it's in your throat. This technique will drive your partner wild with excitement as your throat muscles massage his penis. This is accomplished by actually making a swallowing motion while the entire length of his penis is deep in your throat. You should also be able to lick his scrotum when your mouth is at the base, provided you are in the right position. If your man is exceedingly lengthy, and you just won’t be happy until you can swallow all of him to the root, here’s the technique you’ll need to penetrate further into the esophagus.

2) Popping the Penis. When taking his penis out of your throat, bring it all the way up to your mouth and “suck” it hard so that, when you pull it out, it makes a “popping” noise. Then quickly suck it back into your throat and do it again. The extra friction that happens when you suck your man in while lifting your head out is the reason that this is so stimulating for him because most of the sensation is in the first few inches of his penis.

3) Blowing Hot and Cold. Go down on the penis shaft as far as you can with your lips firmly wrapped around it. Open your mouth as wide as you can and suck in as much air as your lungs will hold. While sucking in air, let your open mouth travel up to the penis's head. Your upstroke motion should end at the head of his penis just as your lungs fill with air. Then, with your mouth still open, let out the air in your lungs slowly through your mouth as your opened mouth travels back down the shaft. This technique cools the penis on the upstroke and warms the penis with your hot breath on the down stroke.

4) Humming. Suck your man’s penis into your throat, and, while it is deep in, start to hum. It doesn’t matter what you hum. If you find it hard to do with the penis all the way in, start humming as it comes out of your throat, or puff out your cheeks slightly so you can breathe. The vibrations of your tongue, throat, and tonsils when you hum will drive him crazy.

5) Traveling Figure 8. After you have become accustomed to taking his penis deep into your throat, try this action. With your lips firmly wrapped around the shaft, very slowly go down to the base. Your nose should be buried in, or at least touching, the pubic hairs at the base of the penis. Next, with your nose, trace a figure 8 as if the "8" were lying on its side, making your figure 8 motion about 3-4 inches long. Slowly travel up the shaft of the penis to the head while doing the figure eight motion. Keep doing this motion while your lips firmly travel up and down the shaft.

Adding some of these techniques to your deep throating repertoire will give you enough variety to stimulate and please your partner. Remember that everyone's different, but, in all cases, practice makes perfect. Trying is definitely more than half the fun, and the reward your man will give you for your efforts will amply pay you back for all your practice.

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Deep Throat: What It Is and How to Do It

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Deep throat is a form of oral sex in which the entire length of the erect penis is taken into the mouth. The pleasure of deep throating is created by the ring of tightness around the circumference of the penis just below the head, with the most intense sensation focused on the sensitive underside of the penis where the head joins the shaft. Since the average erect penis is longer than the average mouth is deep, deep throat requires suppressing the gag reflex in order to partially swallow the end of the penis. In order to perform this type of oral sex, the penis recipient controls all the muscles at the back of the throat and flattens the tongue, while gradually inserting the erect penis completely.

To start with, the penis must be thoroughly lubricated. An erect penis will slide much easier along the tongue and into the throat if it's slick with saliva. Since the saliva in the back of your throat is somewhat thicker than what you have in the front of it, begin by pressing the penis as far as it will just uncomfortably go into your mouth and rest it there. Pause for 30-45 seconds, come up for air, lick and suck a little bit, and do it again. After a minute or so of this pressing, you should have a nice pool of lubrication in your mouth.

The biggest obstacle to taking all of his penis down your throat is the fact that there is a bend of almost ninety degrees behind your tongue leading down into your throat. So the first thing to do is get the penis past that angle. You'll want to be in position where you can turn your head in such a way that your mouth and throat lie almost in a straight line. The best position to accomplish this is to lie on a bed so that your head is near the edge with your body sprawled across the bed so that your head is tipped sharply back. This position will put your mouth and throat nearly in a line and will allow the penis to slide in deeper.

Once you're in position, extend the tip of your tongue just past your bottom lip. Extending your tongue helps flatten the back of your tongue. Then open your throat wide as if you were yawning. Forcing the back of your tongue down and your throat open will counter the gag reflex and will create a larger opening for the penis to enter. Next, take a deep breath, and slowly slide the length of the penis into your mouth and along your tongue. When you feel the urge to gag, pause and hold the penis there as long as possible, and then withdraw it. Repeat this process as many times as necessary.

When you get to the point where the head actually enters the throat, you may feel a little resistance, and you will need to give a little extra push to get the penis fully in. It may help to use your tongue to pull the penis in deeper. When you reach the point where you feel the gag reflex, pause for a moment, then, without removing the penis from you mouth, extend your tongue out a little further. Then pull your tongue back into your mouth, pulling the penis along with it. Eventually, you'll be able to take the penis in deeper and deeper until you can take the entire length of it across your tongue and down your throat. Roll your eyes upwards to prevent the tear ducts from overreacting.

DON’T take a deep breath before you push the penis back into your throat. Taking in a deep breath decreases the amount of penis that you can take into your throat. Breathe normally and stop just before the penis actually goes into your throat and you begin the swallowing motions with your tongue. At first, do not leave him in your throat too long. Bring him in and let him out. Deep throating does not necessarily mean holding your man’s penis deep in your throat continuously though you can do that as long as you're comfortable.

Deep throating can make swallowing semen easier since the ejaculate may bypass most of the tongue and taste buds, depending on the depth of penetration at the time of release. If the penis is held completely inside the mouth and throat as the man releases ( i.e., with the woman's lips pressed firmly against the man's abdomen and scrotum), the semen may be released into the stomach without the recipient having to swallow.

While learning to deep throat, it's better that you you control the depth and frequency of penetration. After you've become very comfortable with taking a penis deep into your throat, you'll be able to accept a more passive role and let your partner control the depth. Actively thrusting the penis into the mouth of a partner is called irrumatio. An excellent position for this is with you lying on your back with your head hanging off the edge of the bed. In this position, your partner will be able to put his penis in as deeply as he wishes. This position also allows him to watch your throat expand and bulge as his penis slides in deep. For more about this sexual practice, read my tutorial Irrumatio: Even Better Than Fellatio?

There are lots of ways to give your lover vast amounts of oral pleasure without him entering your throat, but it’s worth trying. The key thing to remember when learning to deep throat your man is that practice makes perfect. No one did this technique perfectly the first, second, or even third time they tried. Once you've mastered deep throat, here are five advanced techniques you can learn to make deep throat even more enjoyable for your man. If your man is exceedingly lengthy, and you just won’t be happy until you can swallow all of him to the root, here’s the technique you’ll need to penetrate further into the esophagus.

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Oral Sex Tips for Couples

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Oral sex consists of using of the mouth, which may include use of the tongue, teeth, and throat, to stimulate the genitals. Cunnilingus refers to oral sex performed on a woman, and fellatio refers to oral sex performed on a man. People may engage in oral sex as part of foreplay before intercourse, or during or following intercourse. It may also be performed as its own sex act. Many women who are situationally anorgasmic can only achieve orgasm through oral sex, and so they often prefer it instead of or in addition to sexual intercourse.

5 Tips for Doing It to Her

1) Lick her like an ice cream cone--big soft licks from stem to stern with a wide flat tongue stimulate all the nerves in her genital area. Go deliciously slow to make her feel like a yummy dessert being savored, or speed it up a bit and focus more on the clitoral area to push her towards orgasm.

2) Check the hood. Most women prefer to have their clitorises licked through the "clitoral hood." This is a fold of skin that covers the actual glans of the clitoris, which is extremely sensitive.

3) Dive in. Build up the intensity level gradually. Once you're into it, use your whole face during cunnilingus. Bury yourself in her vagina. Get your tongue in as far as possible, and use your nose for more pressure. Not only does this feel good physically, but it lets her know you are really into her taste and smell.

4) Insert two fingers into her vagina while licking her clitoris. Curl those fingers up towards your tongue, capturing her clitoris and G-spot between your mouth and fingers. As your tongue licks up, pull down with your fingers. Get a rhythm going.

5) Suck her into your mouth. Gentle suction is a nice variation on the licks and downward pressure of most cunnilingus. While you've got a nice piece of her sucked in your mouth, lick it while maintaining the suction.

5 Tips for Doing It to Him

1) Act like you want to be there. A woman who's performing simply because she has to is the number one passion killer. Enthusiasm will turn him on more than any technique will.

2) On the other hand, don't be too rough. Don't bite, yank back the foreskin, suck too hard, or pump up and down like you're trying to draw water from a dry well. Keep your teeth covered at all times with your lips.

3) Don't forget the rest of his body. The scrotum and testicles are particularly sensitive, and most men like them to be stimulated. Try lightly licking or touching his testicles during oral sex. He might also like them to be cradled gently in one of your hands. Some men go wild when you place your hand around the top of the scrotum and gently tug down.

4) When he's about to ejaculate, put pressure on the area between his scrotum and anus which is where the prostate gland is located. You should feel it jerking with his ejaculation. This makes for extra sensation.

5) Don't act as if semen is poison. You don't have to swallow, but you don't need to run out of the room either. Don't leave him in the lurch -- switch to using your hand, or let him leave a little mess elsewhere on your body. If you would like to make fellatio an even better experience for your man by swallowing his semen, try these seven tips for overcoming the gag reflex and the taste.

Oral sex is a very natural and normal part of any sexual relationship. People enjoy and are aroused by licking, sucking, or "taking in" parts of another person's body into their mouth. Oral sex is the most sensual of all love play, capable of producing sensations that far surpass the pleasures of intercourse alone.

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